Day 10 of “The Journey Back to Self - There’s Light at The End of the Tunnel”

In my 10 minutes today, I held myself accountable...

I set my specific goals for the day. 

I wrote them down in the present moment. As if they already exist. 

I identified the feelings attached to the goals - how I feel as I accomplish them. 

I drank lemon water and honey. - I feel healthy. 

I did a 9 minute meditation. - I feel a peace. 

I wrote in my gratitude journal. - I feel grateful. 

I deflected the innate desire to skip the gym but went any way. I only intended to walk on the treadmill for 30 min. 

I did forty minutes on the treadmill at a 6 % grade at 3.5 mph covering 2.25 miles. - I feel better than I did when I was trying to find excuses not to go to the gym. 

I did 10 push ups

15 sit ups

And 15 air squats

- I feel strong. 

My 10 minutes turned into 2 and a half hours.  

-I feel motivated. 

-I feel hopeful. 

- I feel like there’s light at the end of the tunnel. 

Where will your 10 minutes of “The Journey Back to Self” take you?

 

Day 9 of “The Journey Back to Self - We’re All In This Together”

 There’s not much to say except each and every one of us has endured challenging times before the pandemic, and we continue to currently walk through adversity. 

The best part about it is that we have choices how we walk through life. 

I choose to walk as a family.  

Although we are missing my parents this holiday, we are grateful they are safe and healthy. 

Life as we know it has been disrupted. 

I choose to see the good in it despite the inconveniences of it all. 

As much as I want to hibernate, I choose to walk through it with others. 

I am grateful for my family and my friends.  

I am stronger because of them. 

I am inspired by the examples they set. 

Their strength is admirable. 

I see them, and recognize that we are all in this together. 

I wouldn’t want it any other way. 

In your 10 minutes of self-care, are you content with how you’re walking through these times?

“Day 8 of “The Journey Back to Self - Living IN the Goal”

I took my 10 minutes of self-care today to take a look at the goals and intentions I am setting for 2021. 

How many lofty goals have you set for yourself with tremendous intention saying “I’m going to...(fill in whatever you said your going to do, accomplish or change)?

Guilty as charged!

After many failed attempts towards “New Year’s Resolutions”, I began to reflect year over year why I wasn’t attaining my well intentioned “wishes”.   

It was because they were just wishes. 

“Some people want it to happen, some wish it would happen, others make it happen.” - Michael Jordan

My dad would say, “Theres no such thing as a good try”, which I never understood until I began my personal growth journey. 

There’s so much more to goal setting for the new year or new seasons of life. 

It starts with how we speak of our goals. 

It begins with our choice of words as we describe our “wishes”.  

It is all about the tense we use. 

Speak as if it’s already happening. 

I’ve looked back in journals years ago where I’ve set specific goals. The goals I attained were the ones I spoke in present tense. 

For example, when I was faced with divorce and bankruptcy, my journal entry read:

1. “I “need” to get my significant other sober and back on track so we can be happy.” 

2. “I need to pay off all my debt so I don’t have to worry about finances.”

Holy crap!  No wonder I was stuck in my marriage and broke for way longer than I needed to be!  

I was wishing from a space of “lack”. 

Today, I speak from a place of abundance. I speak as if I’m already IN the solution and the desired state.

For example, today I speak of my desires so differently...

1.  It is 1/1/21. I am an active participant in all my relationships. I am vulnerable in my requests of what I want, yet I set boundaries. My relationships are filled with respect, love, honesty and have set boundaries. Since attaining this goal, I am more confident and have less worry. I have no worries about the toxic people affecting my life. I am free. 

2. It is 6/1/21. I am financially responsible. My relationship with money has firm boundaries. My debt is paid off. I am able to make financial decisions freely because I am in a good financial state of affairs. This brings me peace daily and aligns with other aspects of my life. 

The years I spoke of things from a place of need and lack, I didn’t attain my goals. 

The years I spoke as if I were IN it, those were the years I attained it!

Although your brain isn't a true “muscle,” it does function in a similar way to your body's muscles.  

Train it with your words. 

TAKE 10 minutes today to:

Speak favor over your desired life. 

Visualize your goals. (Visualization leads to manifestation.)

Speak as if you’re in IN it. 

And eventually, you will find yourself LIVING it!

Day 7 of “The Journey Back to Self - Are You The River or the Rock?”

Yegge planned a weekend in the mountains for us to disconnect and go off the grid.

The quaint cabin evoked a sense of reconnection to each other.

The sound of the river flowing was soothing, and also provoked a reminder to enjoy the quiet time together.

A reminder to surrender to and to go with the natural flow of what happens in our day to day life with a grateful heart.

I was soothed by the movement and flow of the river as I watched Yegge fish, and as we hiked along the East Fork of the Chatooga River.

The movement of the water caused the rocks to take a beating-eroding with the flow.

In my 10 minutes of reflection this morning, I recognize how sometimes I get pummeled like the river rocks instead of just going with the flow.

Throughout this pandemic, my need to control things has been challenged.

As I watched the water flow and the rocks get thrashed upon, I asked myself...

“Am I The river or the rock?”

“Am I resisting change?

Or am I letting the flow of the river take me where I’m intended to go.

Today, I will faithfully meet each day with purpose.

Moving forward, I choose to be the river and trust the flow.

Which do you choose to be?

Where will your 10 minutes take you this morning?

“Day 6 of “The Journey Back to Self - Going off the Grid”

There’s not much more to say.

Today and tomorrow, my love and I decided to shut down and go off the grid in a beautiful cabin in the mountains (my version of camping).

Taking the focus off of the distractions of technology, work, kids allows for much needed reconnection with one another.

 We’re going back to basics. 

It’s amazing what 10 minutes a day for self-care can lead to...

I’ll be back with Days 7 and 8 on Monday! 

Have a beautiful weekend!

Day 5 of "The Journey Back to Self - The Ever Unfolding Rose"

As 2020, comes to a close, I reflect upon how I have grown through the universal and personal happenings of this year...

As my 10 minutes of self-care this morning turns into an hour, I reflect upon how a rose unfolds as it blooms. 

I think about how I have unfolded through the happenings of my life this year.  

How it’s affected my family. 

My friends and their families. 

And strangers alike. 

I find the challenge in the lack of predictability yet the benefit of keeping my heart open even through hurt and loss.   

Simultaneously, I am motivated by the challenge. 

I tell myself to stay vulnerable. 

Continually unfold and evolve no matter how much it hurts.

As difficult as the most recent events and tragedies in life have been, I draw upon past experience with adversity and fall back on effective and healthy ways of processing the pain. 

I believe these things are happening  FOR me - not TO me. 

During this time, I am gentle with myself.  

I trust my Higher Power. 

I process without judgement. 

I am reminded that through these times, I am transforming. 

I am growing. 

It is what keeps me going. 

It is what makes me resilient. 

I am an ever unfolding rose. 

How are you unfolding from 2020?

 

“Day 4 of “The Journey Back to Self- Communication is Key”

There’s a reason why kids grow up and move out however Covid had different plans for us. Going from empty nester to full house through a pandemic has really tested my entire family.  So as part of a collective self-care mission, I called a family meeting. 

 Each member of the family got the exclusive stage to effectively express what they experienced as a problem and what they had hoped for as a solution. 

 I handed out pens and paper so each person could write down responses to everyone’s comments so there weren’t any interruptions.  This allowed each of us to hold space for one another, and to practice responsible listening.  With the exception of one or two outbursts, we actually did pretty well.

 The result was better than expected. At the end of the day, we all just want to be respected and heard and they want our feelings to be acknowledged. 

Effective communication is essential for growth and understanding (especially for people pleasers, control freaks and creatures of habit). 

So my 10 minutes of self-care turned into a few hours of some pretty valuable time with the people who matter the most to me.   

The energy shifted last night as we went back to basics.  

We rediscovered the meaning of family as we ate, talked, cleaned up and had family game night. 

 All is right in the world again.  It begins at home.  And to think, it all started with 10 minutes of self-care. 

Where will your 10 minutes lead you?

“Day 3 of “The Journey Back to Self - The Power of Movement"

In 10 short minutes, I had a big epiphany!  

I’m not sure where it came from. Possibly from the first yoga class I’ve done in a month.  

It felt so good to move my body as my mind took a ride along.  

Random thoughts and feelings washed over me.  

A mish mosh of the feelings of worry, frustration, and anger slowly dissipated as my body stretched and flowed.  

Despite the chaos, division and uncertainty I was feeling in this day, I transformed my attitude into gratitude with the intentional movement of my body and my breath.  

Back to basics I go.  

No matter how many steps forward I take to be present and awake in my life, I am humbled by my innate ability to also take steps backwards. 

There is power in movement.  Even when I regress and take steps back, I gain a new perspective. 

Today, I changed my thoughts which improved my feelings and ultimately changed my path of action. 

Today, my 10 minutes of self-care turned into an hour of movement.  

Today, I am reminded to embrace what’s good. 

For this, I am grateful. 

Where will your 10 minutes take you today?

“Day 2 of “The Journey Back to Self” - The Stories We Tell Ourselves

 

Meet Pam (circa 1972). 

Pam’s childhood was a good one. 

Her parents raised her with a good set of values and quality family time was important. 

As Pam grew up, she had good experiences. As everyone does, she also encountered adversity. Each experience was interpreted differently. 

Some experiences created different internal stories creating a “victim” mentality and at other times encouraging a “victor”.  Either way, they were driven by the experience. 

As I sit here in Day 2 “Journey Back to Self”, I reflect on what stories I have created from my childhood - which have debilitated me in some areas of life and which ones have served me into living my best life ever. 

It will surely take more than 10 minutes,  but just in this short period of time, I gained a perspective and awareness that I would’ve never gotten if I didn’t take 10 minutes to myself this morning. 

In your 10 minutes of self-care, what past stories can you identify as being debilitating or motivating?

Day 1 of "The Journey Back to Self" - Reclaim Your Day!

I’ve been feeling disconnected from my faith and my Higher Power due to the continuous distractions of this pandemic. As part of my 10 minute practice this morning, I decided to dedicate time to a prayer journal. It’s probably one of the best journal prompts I’ve seen.  It could also be attributed to the fact that I am being more mindful of my dedication to 10 minutes of self-care each day. 

Today’s message of encouragement touched upon the topic of “abuse”. It’s a strong word.  My initial reaction was “it does not apply to me” but after much thought, I recognize at some point in my life, I have been afflicted with a form of abuse.  It could've been by my ex-husband.  Or a friend. It could be by an employer, co-worker or classmate.  

Just the mere act of allowing one to take another for granted, is abusive.  Today I reflected on the guilt I have carried for years (even up until this day) for leaving my marriage.  A marriage that eventually became riddled with emotional abuse and exhaustion due to my ex-husband's alcoholism.  It became a marriage without boundaries nor healthy non-negotiables. 

Within today's 10 minutes of my journey back to self, I recognize that in those times, I was just as responsible for the abuse for not setting boundaries.  I consistently allowed myself to be the door mat because I never anchored myself in my values of respect, self-love and acceptance.  

How we do anything is how we do everything.  In retrospect, the outcome of my failed marriage, an unhealthy relationship with food and money, along with detrimental friendships comes as no surprise.

So today, after my 10 minutes of self-care and reflection, I consciously take my power back.  I anchor myself in my values.  I set boundaries.  I let go of the past mistakes and the pain I accrued over the years from them.  

Today, I am free.  Free of any judgement - from others but most importantly, judgement of myself!

Today, I am grateful.  Grateful for the awareness and the ability to go back to basics and take 10 minutes of self-care each day. 

Today I reclaim my life.  I align myself in a faith in my Higher Power.  

I am the co-creator of my life.  

I will live it to the best of my ability without judgement in kindness to myself and to other. 

I reclaim my day today.  

It is mine.   

How will you reclaim yours?

 

Back to Basics

Covid-19 really threw a wrench into my self-care routine. It’s been 9 months of a roller coaster ride that really disrupted a daily meditation and prayer practice that I had mastered over a year or so ago.   

Throughout this time, I’ve spent intermittent, sleepless nights focused on the uncertainty in which we live. I’ve been figuring out ways to transform negative thoughts into positive feelings so I take positive actions. 

 

I’ve realized that if the climate of this pandemic has the ability to derail me (a daily practicing, conscious, personal discovery junkie), What is it like for someone just beginning to awaken?  

Here’s what I learned through these humbling times...

No matter where we are in our self-discovery journeys, we all are on a level playing field.  There are months where I have it mastered, then I get knocked down with some sort of life impact, and then easily re-group.  For other adversities, I’m required to literally start all over again. 

 

Today marks the one month anniversary of the life altering and tragic death of my daughter’s 20 year old boyfriend, Zeke.  

 

As we begin to grasp our individual grief processes, the hustle and bustle of every day life continues for others around us.  It has become increasingly more difficult to complete regular daily tasks in the fog of grief. 

 

As a result, I long for the peace and serenity I had before Covid hit.  I similarly ache for the sense of normalcy I had attained in my new routine during and after quarantined life.  I’m even more humbled by having to force myself back into the habit of 10 minutes of quiet reflection each day. 

It doesn’t matter where you are in your personal growth and development journey. I’ve been conscious and mindful for years but feel the need to go back to basics. 

 

So I have made a commitment to dedicating 10 minutes a day for self-care. 

 

If you are feeling vulnerable or struggling with your own personal self-care routine, Please join me (starting
12/14 - 12/31) on “The Journey Back to Self”.  It truly is the secret for attaining resilience as we enter 2021