Some become paralyzed by change. Others plow through it. When circumstances change, we choose to reject and remain “stuck” or accept and “activate” the “Wonder Woman” or “Superman” powers within.
I recently took the BIG step of attending the first of 2 three-day trainings towards a Master Life Coaching certification. For some, they may say “What’s the big deal?” For me, it was terrifying. I made every excuse in the book related to not having enough time, money and energy. I made excuses because I was “stuck” in fear - Fear of rejection. Fear of not being worthy. Fear of failing. But I figured it out this weekend with a little help from some friends in the same arena and my dog, Bentley. 😊
How many of you heard or said the following in your lifetime? What was/is your personal translation?
“Be careful what you say”
My personal TRANSLATION: “Conform”
“Don’t offend anyone”
My personal TRANSLATION: “Don’t speak up”
“Do the right thing”
My personal TRANSLATION: “Be compliant”
And the most recent one for me?
“Know your audience”
My personal TRANSLATION: “Don’t be your authentic self”
Sound familiar? How many of you translate them as they are above? Or have you even thought about it until now? I’m not a psychiatrist, nor do I play one on T.V., but I am going to venture to guess that the expectations society has placed upon us are interpreted similarly often. The subconscious mind makes up around 95% of your brain. Every time you have an idea, or an emotion, a memory or an image from the past, it is the subconscious mind which communicates to the conscious mind. For me, there are triggers for a limited belief system which I like to refer to my “belief pool”. When it’s limited, there’s no reason to even bring a bathing suit. There’s no water in the well, and a big sign that saying, “NO DIVING!”
Like Bentley’s (the therapy dog) issue with the disruptive arrival and relationship with his sister Sadie, we all have experienced some life tilts at one point or another. Whether we are facing a gut-wrenching divorce, a job relocation, job loss, a career change or financial ruin, the “belief pool” needs to be full!
So maybe look at how you can not only respond differently but how you can FEEL towards these common restraints that we are often faced with, and turn them around.
“Be careful what you say”
My personal RESPONSE: “If I don’t ask questions, what can I learn?”
“Don’t offend anyone”
My personal RESPONSE: “I’ll say what I think nicely.”
“Do the right thing”
My personal RESPONSE: “How do you know this is the right for me?”
Change is inevitable. Our reaction is fateful. So, toss out the bathing suit and go skinny dipping! But whatever you do? Know this! There are no two people alike, and each travel different journeys in life. What we see from where we each stand is a different view from where the other is so...
“Know your audience” and just BE YOUR AUTHENTIC SELF!
And you will attract like-minded people, or those around you will adjust. And if they don’t? Well then…SO BE IT!
#perfectlyflawed #embracewhatsgood
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